Okay, so the audio version is the author herself reading to us in her raspy voice, which sure grabs my attention as the opening chapter is about us hearing of her life as a child. The traumatic way in which love was displayed to her. Nomasonto introduces how she, together with us end up living as the Plastic man, as our fake selves. It may be to protect or just across the thin line, to hide ourselves. Ouch.
The book is a personal story that gives public lessons on how one should learn to open up to themselves. She is one of those ladies who struggled to let real love flourish as it came packaged all wrong, hahahah. You know what I mean. She met him when he was “broke” in most eyes. He just wasn’t her “type”. Yet, this is the man who had her facing just who she is, doesn’t want to be and who she really is. Yes, no typo there. read Platic Man.
What i did find humor in, which I doubt you will; Is how The List (Which she has a whole chapter on, hahah) of qualities that a man should have was what she actually wanted from herself and hadn’t given to herself. With This book, I have changed my participation and view of myself in many relationships, clients, parents and even strangers. I will confess, this is not easy, yet witnessing my weekly development makes it all worth it. I am all the better for it.
Example of a harsh lesson about myself from Plastic man: I am a defensive person, in thought, speech and action. Defense means I attack. Mind you, this comes from someone who would constantly tell people to stop being defensive. It is true what we coaches say; awareness is empowering.
Just after reading the book:
My Immediate reaction to this book was gratitude for having someone share themselves in this way. The author talks us through her life with regards to discovering love. “Who you are looking for, is also looking for you” as she puts it. Her main lesson, that she discovered along her journey is that she has always been the love she was looking for, because God dwells within her. She walks us through the importance of knowing how to love and accept love.
She has you asking yourself necessary questions that may cause some discomfort, for example; What are your belief around love? Your beliefs may just be causing you to live in a way that repels or daws love to you. She is a firm believer in “learning yourself through observing your partner”
Why should you read this book? She speaks about Criticism syndrome. Wow!
Delayed reaction: Lessons that I still practice a few weeks after reading the book, I am more aware of my emotions. That’s funny from someone who was already a fan of feeling fully and not ducking any emotions.
By Nomasonto Portia Zwane